Random Quote

Romance is the ecstatic delight of the heart that can live forever in its own self-existent Joy.

— Karmayogi

How do you decide if you should marry?

I’m a bit confused at the moment because I’m trying to figure out what factors you should consider when deciding whether to marry someone. On the one hand many people talk about sparks and chemistry, and feeling as though you can’t live without this person. On the other side, however, there are the voices who say it’s companionship, commitment, and common values and goals. Or are we supposed to be looking for all of the above?

Also, at what point do you have to start considering the odds of finding someone better? Imagine, for instance, that there’s something about you that is way outside the norm and is quite unpopular. If you find someone who accepts that part of you, and is a good person that you’re interested in, do you grab them? Or do you still wait for the whole fireworks extravaganza?

And just to clarify, when I’m talking fireworks and chemistry, I’m talking about the can’t-stop-thinking-about-you, can’t-keep-my-hands-off-you, kind of chemistry. In my nonchemistry model I am assuming there’s enough chemistry that you enjoy the physical aspect of the relationship, but you’re not totally blown away. So, what factors should be considered when deciding whether or not you should marry someone?